The issue of commitments, moral boundaries, and behavioral limits in relation to the opposite sex after entering a serious relationship or marriage is one of the most challenging and at the same time key topics in emotional relationships. This issue has no fixed formula or black and white rule at all and is completely different from person to person, culture to culture, and even city to city. What is considered normal and completely sincere behavior in one family or culture (such as kissing, hugging, or going to the pool with family members of the opposite sex) may be a bold and unacceptable red line for someone from another family. This is why talking about the details of these boundaries before getting serious about the relationship or marriage is a 100% necessity and vital.
When two people have completely different capacities and perceptions of behavioral limits, a lot of psychological pressure is placed on their relationship. If one person's capacity to accept more open relationships is small and the other person defines excessive behavior for them, this difference becomes like fitting a large object into a small container; rolling it up and crumpling it is useless and will ultimately lead to breaking the container, harsh behavior, anger, and loss of peace in the home. We must learn to talk about the exact details; from texting and chatting with the opposite sex, liking photos on social media, to how to treat a cousin or old friend. Being open in these conversations will prevent misunderstandings and unrealistic expectations in the future.